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Allifunn
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Glad to see you posting again.....Glad to hear of a happy ending.
Cil
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I wholeheartedly agree with this. It's just that good communication can only work if *both sides* are being open and honest.
I think what ktschris says, that children can be in such a hurry to grow up, is very true.
What Scooterbug says here:
...Should be plastered across every parent's forehead.
I thought I had a really good relationship with the older kid, especially in terms of communication.
Regardless, once those hormones kicked in, he was a different kid.
He would cheerfully lie to my face. He loved me and all, but he really did not like being told what to do. He'd say all the right things, then go off and do what he wanted.
We can laugh about it now. He is 24 years old and will soon hold a masters degree.
I was not all that amused back then.
However, as Minnie and Johnrudy say, we have to make decisions and trust our child, and we all live with the consequences. Looking back, I am not sure I would/could have changed anything I did.
Our "good" kid, the younger one over at FSU, who has never given us any trouble, well, I have no illusions. He's probably more like Ocean Lover and I, good kids gone wild who never leave evidence. ;-)
Good for you, Johnrudy. If you just keep doing what you are doing, all will be well.
30A Skunkape
Skunky
The party that pays for the housing, the food, the utilities, the clothes, and the very paper said notes are written upon has the right to inspect anything at anytime in the house. What is so confusing? 
As always Cil, thanks for your thought provoking post. I feel blessed to be able to talk and share differing opinions with my son. Right before he went to bed last night, I reminded him that even tho he may think I never listen to him, I always hear what he says. I believe he knows he can come talk to me without fear of being judged. I might not always have the answers or a solution but if we talk about it, we might be able to figure it out together. That in itself is comforting.
The party that pays for the housing, the food, the utilities, the clothes, and the very paper said notes are written upon has the right to inspect anything at anytime in the house. What is so confusing?
It does seem like a no-brainer but for someone who has admittedly been a "tentative" parent (this is childhood thing with both deceased parents being poor role models), I'm still learning new things everyday about child rearing. When I began researching the subject online, I got extreme varying opinions from very reliable sources (popular parenting magazines, famous pediatricians, child psychologists). Childrearing can be overwhelming and confusing.
But it's all good for now. Tomorrow could be a different story.
ItzKatzTime
Beach Fanatic
I have both my hands raised on this....Kalie knows what's left around is open for discussion between the two of us. This has been our "pack" all through elementary, middle, and now high school. If my diary is sitting out I do not care one bit that she reads it. It allows her to know her mother inside and out. (Of course I wouldn't want my husband to read it)
This is not to say that I disagree with others who do not read. I love the respect that you give to your child. Whatever works..... No one should judge another of their actions, thoughts or opinions.
For some reason she has never been much of a note writer....or maybe she's pitching them before she gets home.
My mother read everything she could get her hands on and appraoched me on all of it. Each time I was so embarrassed, but one particular time she saved my A$$ and I was so grateful. I just wish she had told me from the beginning that she was going to read anything that came in with me from school.
This is not to say that I disagree with others who do not read. I love the respect that you give to your child. Whatever works..... No one should judge another of their actions, thoughts or opinions.
For some reason she has never been much of a note writer....or maybe she's pitching them before she gets home.
My mother read everything she could get her hands on and appraoched me on all of it. Each time I was so embarrassed, but one particular time she saved my A$$ and I was so grateful. I just wish she had told me from the beginning that she was going to read anything that came in with me from school.
What a grayt topic!
Bob
SoWal Insider
Do not bring back the Mercedes empty mit Lowenbrau bottles in the back seat and seed burns in the Sudentenland leather seats are you vil go to das cooler!The party that pays for the housing, the food, the utilities, the clothes, and the very paper said notes are written upon has the right to inspect anything at anytime in the house. What is so confusing?
30A Skunkape
Skunky
Bob, URNUTZ!!!:roll:
Bob
SoWal Insider
I am a product of the Fuhrer's bioengineering facilities in the occupied territories. My family and I are trained to be as disciplined as Dobermans. We are all closely shorn and only eat high protein, low fat foodstuffs. All potential boyfriends must submit to polygraphs, and all school notes are reviewed by the Minister of Information, Frau Wife.commer. I must put the Wagner CD on repeat now.....weidersehn