Invasion of privacy?

[Ocean Lover]

you were a wild kid, no?

I resemble that remark. (quiet unassuming good girl gone wild but I was too smart to leave evidence anywhere)

 

[scooterbug44]

It's not just the "wild" kids parents should worry about - you wouldn't believe what the "good" kids are doing!!!

 

[Rudyjohn]

you were a wild kid, no?

I do exactly what The Window Guy does too. And the reason? My teen years - - I'm not so naive not to know what goes on. My son is a saint compared to what I've seen & witnessed in the past.

 

[Minnie]

Have to agree with Miss Kitty, I seem to do that alot. She is a wise woman.

As a parent you truly at times just have to fly by the seat of your pants and pray for the best. I made mistakes, thankfully none that damaged my relationship with my daughter beyond repair. In hindsight which is always 20/20, it is very easy to say what we would do differently.

But the problem is at that particular time when you are making decisions you simply don't have that foresight to draw from. So you just take a deep breath and make a choice and hope for the best.

I did always try to make my daughter understand that my decisions were based on tough love and hoped when she was older she would understand why I did what I did. Luckily she does.

There is a great book called, "Will You Still Love Me?" for mother/daughter relationships, there are probably some similar for boys.

Also very possibly, there where will come a time where you get to be the forgiving one of them and it all evens out. And believe me if they go to college I can almost guarantee that opportunity will arise in some form.

Good luck and my prayers are with you.

It is the hardest job ever and does not come with an instruction manual.

 

[ktschris]

I have my son's password to his myspace page. He knows that I can check it at anytime. I have no problem with this and he doesn't seem to mind. It's not that I feel the need to invade his privacy, it's that I want to keep him safe. I'm shocked at what some kids post on these pages, and quiet frankly if no adults are around to "police" it, those pages can get quickly out of hand. There is just too much garbage on the internet that is not age appropriate for teenagers. Just like I won't let him watch R rated movies, all that garbage must be weeded out. I have had to tell him that some of his friends would be blocked if they didn't clean up there langauge and the content of their pages. I have also told other parents that they might want to "check" their childs page if they haven't seen it in a while. Some parents get really mad, but I have to tell you the majority thanked me and were grateful that I cared enough to check.

They are all such in a hurry to grow up -- the sex and violence and bad language makes them feel mature, but I always tell mine -- you will be an adult before you are ready and if you won't fight to stay young and innocent, then I will fight for you.

Just my 2?

 

[Rudyjohn]

Thank you Minnie & ktschris.

I'm going to broach the subject this afternoon - we have a 2 hr. weekly round trip so this will be a perfect time for a talk. There are times he would flip out and cop an attitude and it's usually about homework, or too much playstation, or staying up 'til 3am on weekends, etc. But then there are the times when he listens. We've had some very similar talks in the past and it's time to re-visit them again. I just wanted to see if other parents have snooped. Deep down I knew I shouldn't and it IS an invasion of his privacy.

Now if it was Mr. JR, he'd rather not know and would never read a note - consequently he's not nearly as frazzled of being a parent! All of this would make him sick to his stomach.

 

[Rudyjohn]

It's all good! Thankfully. No worries. Whew. And he is aware that I will continue to read notes that I find carelessly lying around. We both remained mature throughout our "talk."


(now of course, some notes will be forever hidden when necessary. :shock

 

[Ocean Lover]

It's all good! Thankfully. No worries. Whew. And he is aware that I will continue to read notes that I find carelessly lying around. We both remained mature throughout our "talk."


(now of course, some notes will be forever hidden when necessary. :shock

Yea!!! Good job Mom!!!!

 

[Allifunn]

It's all good! Thankfully. No worries. Whew. And he is aware that I will continue to read notes that I find carelessly lying around. We both remained mature throughout our "talk."


(now of course, some notes will be forever hidden when necessary. :shock

I am glad that you discussed it with him..there is no substitute for COMMUNICATION!!!! An open and honest relationship with your child is KEY to a healthy and happy child!!!

 

[Rudyjohn]

I am glad that you discussed it with him..there is no substitute for COMMUNICATION!!!! An open and honest relationship with your child is KEY to a healthy and happy child!!!

love you. Thanks.