JT
Beach Lover
Ok, Ok, everyone needs to go see Pay it foward if you have not already.
It explains everything.
Oh, yeah its just a movie but a good message!!!!
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Ok, Ok, everyone needs to go see Pay it foward if you have not already.
It explains everything.
Oh, yeah its just a movie but a good message!!!!
scooterbug44
SoWal Expert
So sad! I blame our lowered expectations/standards for this! Weighted grades, self esteem trumping academics, lack of parental involvement in schools etc.
People's level of achievement will rise or fall based upon your expectations of them - demand the best and you often get it..................just as you will if you expect the worst of people!
sbartoldus
Beach Fanatic
One of the saddest things is when we stop honoring our individual gifts and yet start demanding them of others.
Bob
SoWal Insider
I spoke with my wife about my posts last night and asked her response about character. She said her greatest challenge regarding students involves changes she has seen over her career. She believes most 5th graders exhibit more worldly tendencies, but their attention spans are shorter. Cheating by copying test answers is a constant challenge. Some of her students look completely baffled that comparing answers with your neighbor does not measure their level of achievement. There is no help from many parents regarding this issue, because of the prevailing attitude with some folks of "win at any cost". She suspects that with FCAT and merit pay being based on test scores, many of her colleagues look the other way. Just as fraternities and sororities are training grounds for the country club set, perhaps the test scores are the precursors to bank account balances, and this is indoctrination to capitalism. Perhaps it would be kind not to point this out.
scooterbug44
SoWal Expert
Yes, d@mn all those teachers and family members who pushed me to do my best and wouldn't accept excuses/anything less because they knew what I was capable of! Serves them right that I and my classmates became confident, well educated, productive and hardworking members of society!
All I'm saying is that if you tell a child they can do & achieve anything, they'll believe you.................Lower your expectations and make excuses for them and you lower their level of achievement.
Expecting people to work hard and succeed doesn't diminish their individual gifts, it gives them a solid foundation of support to build their dreams upon.
sbartoldus
Beach Fanatic
Why not believe in them no matter what they choose to do? I see expectations and limitations as two peas in the same pod. Just my 3 cents.
The underlying success factor of good character is the single most important factor in determining our success, and the good news is that each of us have the ability to develop it and achieve extraordinary success in life! It is vitally important to each of us that we develop the underlying success factor of positive character qualities in our own life! And, it is critical to our children's future that we help them to fully develop it as we educate and train them and prepare them for their future.
ditto.
scooterbug44
SoWal Expert
I don't see making your kid do their homework, try in school, and work hard as "limitations". I'm not advocating that you decide their careerpath while they're in the womb or scoff at their interests, but that you believe in them and push them to excell in whatever they do.
iwishiwasthere
Beach Fanatic
You must work for the state of Tennessee in the education department. I am filling out my eval forms, and those are the very terms they are using
Can you tell I am NOT having a good day??!!!???!!!! I wish they would just leave me the hail alone and let me do my job!As for the kindness quote, one of my favs is "Be kinder than necessary, as everyone is fighting some battle."