I am not disagreeing that each party has made a contribution to the situation.
The main difference I am seeing is that in the case of Social Security that you bring up, most of the members of the Democratic Party sincerely agree with the position the Party leaders take.
In the case of Family Values or Roe v Wade, it is primarily used as a wedge issue; while many people who are members of the Republican Party believe in strong family values and have strong, valid, sincere beliefs about choice and abortion...most of the political operatives and the leadership of the Party do not-- but, they have chosen to use it because it works for them...there is a hypocritical element to the campaigns. There is a "win at all costs" theme running through their campaigns...it is about power and control and whatever it takes to get there.
The Democrats are also about power and control, but have not been as hypocritical in their grasp for power according to the research I have done. Some of the members of the Party would say to the detriment of the Party and its members--especially about Health Care.
(Obviously, I am biased because I am a Democrat, but I like to think I can also be objective about the processes most of the time)
I am not saying that this kind of thing does not happen in both major parties. just look at John Edwards--but, that is an individual case--not a whole party position. In the last 20 years I have found it curious that so many poor, white southerners have voted with the Republican Party for policies and positions that actually have harmed them! so, I began to look for an explanation for it.
It is interesting to me to delve into the campaign strategies and decisions and see what really has occurred.
I just wish more people were better informed about how things work and why. So many get turned off by politics and feel they want no part of the entire process, but there is no way to avoid politics in our society, and if we leave it to the political operatives and the party leaders, then we all suffer IMO.
I had a conversation with Florida's former Senator Bob Graham recently. He has established the Graham Center for Civic Education at the University of Florida with the goal of educating students from grade school to college and people everywhere about citizenship. After 38 years as a public servant he knows a thing or two about how government works and should work and each citizens' role in that process. He is attempting to bring Civics Education back to the classroom.
I recommend his latest book to anyone who wants to learn more, or wants the students to know more about what responsibilities we as American citizens have for our government and some ways that we can affect outcomes of political movements.
America - The Owners Manual by Bob Graham with Chris Hand.
(Note to Andy--My former boss is a Harvard man, so beware

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